Let Them - Mel Robbins

Rating: ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ 

As you might have gathered by now, I don’t read non-fiction very often and I listened to this on audiobook, delivered by Mel herself and it’s one book I have now listened to more than once, not just because I love it but because I am fully aware of old habits and how they can creep back into my mind when I am feeling low.

You might have listened to Mel’s podcasts or even have read one of her previous books but as a fifty-five year old woman, who fully and truly believes that we all need to keep evolving, this truly is a banger of a book.

Let Them is Mel Robbins doing what she does best: taking a thought you’ve vaguely had at 2 a.m, stripping it down, and handing it back to you like a tool you can actually use.

I have always been a chronic people pleaser. Up until the menopause I had the self-esteem of a gnat. I know menopause gets a bad rap, and trust me, I hate it as much as the next woman, but it gave me the courage to finally deal with the parts of me that made me deeply unhappy.

Reading Let Them, I think, was a necessary part of my learning journey.

For a long time, I have believed and told everybody that I think needs to hear it, that you cannot change what other people think of you. They are going to think/act/be who they want to, and you shouldn’t and can’t let it bother you. YOU are responsible for your own well-being and part of that is to let go of the worries/fear etc that you believe others think about you. But we are all creatures of habit and it took this book to finally sit in my head properly.

Mel walks through relationships and expectations of work, family, friends with a steady reminder that other people’s choices are not your responsibility, and your peace does not require their approval.

I can’t recommend this book highly enough. Like most self-help books, there may be parts that just don’t resonate or perhaps all of it will. But you will take away from it what you need and if you implement what you learn, your life and how you feel/react to people and situations, will get better.

Let people do what they’re going to do, and stop exhausting yourself trying to manage, fix, explain, or pre-empt their behaviour.

Read “Let Them” if you’re tired of carrying other people’s emotions like weighted baggage. And start 2026 off feeling calmer, clearer, and slightly smug the first time you whisper “let them” and mean it. For the record, I now say “let them” several times a week, whether out loud or in my head, and then I walk away. And it feels so good!

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Written as an easy-to-understand guide, Robbins shares relatable stories from her own life, highlights key takeaways, relevant research and introduces you to world-renowned experts in psychology, neuroscience, relationships, happiness, and ancient wisdom who champion The Let Them Theory every step of the way.

Learn how to:

Stop wasting energy on things you can't control

Stop comparing yourself to other people

Break free from fear and self-doubt

Release the grip of people's expectations

Build the best friendships of your life

Create the love you deserve

Pursue what truly matters to you with confidence

Build resilience against everyday stressors and distractions

Define your own path to success, joy, and fulfilment

. . . and so much more.

The Let Them Theory will forever change the way you think about relationships, control, and personal power. Whether you want to advance your career, motivate others to change, take creative risks, find deeper connections, build better habits, start a new chapter, or simply create more happiness in your life and relationships, this book gives you the mindset and tools to unlock your full potential.